Sex can trigger all sorts of physical and emotional responses in the body.  Your heart rate might increase, skin might flush, toes might curl…and all of that can be mind-blowingly wonderful.  But sometimes sex, especially really intense sex, can bring up negative thoughts and emotions. Sex can even trigger memories of negative past events that can really through you for a loop. 

In Episode 11, the Wives set themselves a little homework assignment: set up an Impact Play experience. But when Kat creates a MFM scene and directs the guys to be a little rough, it brought up some strong negative emotions for her.  So, the Wives sit down and talk through the issue like best friends do.  And Kat shares how a past experience with domestic violence has shaped some of her attitudes toward sex and starts working through the process of exorcising those demons. 

We know this isn’t the typical upbeat, sexy topic that you expect to hear from the 2HotWives, but, you know what? Sex is complicated and shit happens, so we decided to go with honesty and authenticity over format (sorry Mr. Ams!) 

And, trust us, we will be back next episode with more fun, sexy shenanigans!

We used many resources to prepare for this episode, but found the 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey to be exceptionally helpful. 

Everyone deserves a relationship free of abuse. If you or someone you love is in an abusive relationship, please seek out help.  Below is a list of resources:

Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)

Join the Love (Helping Loved Ones Who May be in Abusive Relationships)

Safe Horizon: 800-621-HOPE (4673)

And, if you are the survivor of an abusive relationship, looking for resources to reclaim your sexuality, check out the following resources. 

Reclaiming Your Sexual Self After Trauma

Sexual Healing After Trauma

How to Enjoy Sex Again if You’ve Experience Sexual Assault

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